How to Tackle Big Questions
By Jane A Malkoff MSN RN NP
Does chaos breed chaos? Could an environment of calm and reassurance meet an urgent need more effectively than an environment of anxiousness and upset? When we slow-down in the midst of a crisis, take deep breaths, and think for a moment about the next choice, are we better served and better at serving others? I think so.
In our daily work at Clarity Care Advocates, LLC we find ourselves assisting families in the midst of situations where they are expected to make very big decisions in a very limited amount of time. What is behind door number one, door number two, door number three…door number 30? Often, there may seem to be no other choice than to jump in and make these big decisions rapidly and deal with the consequences later.
When making an important decision regarding a person’s care and/or medical options in a non-life threatening situation, it is perfectly appropriate to take the time needed to conscientiously put the just right plan into place.
Many of the most common and stressful planning points have to do with safety issues, rehabilitation options, long-term care options, quality home care options, insurance, financing care, medication management, isolation, end-of-life care, facility versus at home care, dementia care, and more. These are very important considerations requiring due diligence to know what exactly is on the other side of each choice. While there is no formula for calculating the best route with zero risk, there are best strategies.
It is okay to take a deep breath and slow down in order to make decisions. It is okay to make it clear to everyone involved you will slow down so you are responding out of discernment versus pressure. Taking time to gather all of the information needed is extremely important. If you find yourself in a situation where the risk is unclear or where all of the options are not presented clearly, simply ask those around you to give you more information and time to reflect. Be prepared to demand it. It could be riskier not to.
We will be here for you too with the strategies needed to support your journey in making these important decisions.